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Aug 8, 2022 12:00:00 AM
- Benefits of nesting after divorce
- Is nesting right for you?
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Also called “bird’s nest custody,” a nesting arrangement flips the typical custody arrangement backward. Instead of the children traveling between two parental houses, the children stay put, and the parents switch off between the family house and another location.
A nesting arrangement can be used as a transition step to maintain the children’s familiar surroundings and routines. It can also be used as a more permanent custody arrangement. It’s usually a choice. Nesting is rarely ordered by a court, as it requires the parents involved to be in full agreement, active in their communication with one another, and on good terms.
What are the benefits of a nesting arrangement after divorce?
The most obvious benefit of nesting is the increased stability for the children involved.
- Consistency: Instead of moving back and forth between two houses, the children get to continue to sleep in the same room, play in the same backyard, and attend the same school.
- Less stress: In a more “traditional” separation situation, one home is likely to be unfamiliar – at least in the early stages – which makes things more stressful for children. Further, with nesting, there’s no worrying about leaving necessities or beloved items behind at Mom’s house and no need for parents to buy two sets of everything a child might need.
- Better communication: For some parents, communication may be easier in a nesting arrangement because there is a clear location where the exchange of information can take place: the family home. Parents may use a shared calendar on the fridge or leave each other notes on the counter, knowing that the message will be received as the other parent enters the nest.
What are the disadvantages of a nesting arrangement after divorce?
Of course, there are some disadvantages to nesting as well.
- It can be expensive. A separated couple likely does not want to share a bed, and each parent will want to maintain their own space away from the nest. The family as a whole is therefore financially responsible for three residences instead of the more typical two.
- It can be more stressful for the parents. Although nesting maintains stability for the children, it places a much larger burden on the parents to be constantly moving between two homes. This type of constant change can be emotionally difficult for adults as well as children.
- Privacy can be harder to maintain. Nesting requires a separated couple to share space, even if not at the same time. For some parents, maintaining privacy may be a concern.
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